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Face Your Dragons · Round 2

Before Day 1 —
a few honest questions.

This takes about 5 minutes. I will personally read every assessment before our first call together. There are no right answers — only honest ones.

Read each question slowly. Answer from the gut, not the head.

Nervous System

When conflict comes up, what does your body do first?

Shut down — go quiet, numb, disappear

Activate — heat up, get reactive, need to fix it

Fawn — agree, people-please, make it stop

Move between all of them

Nervous System

Where do you feel stress first in your body?

Chest — tightness, heaviness, constriction

Gut or stomach — knots, nausea, dropping feeling

Throat — tightening, words get stuck

Jaw or shoulders — bracing, clenching

Head — racing thoughts, pressure

I don't notice it — I live in my head

Core Shame

When you make a mistake, what does the voice inside say?

That was a mistake — I can fix it and move on

I'm so stupid — I always get this wrong

What's wrong with me — I'm never going to change

I go numb — no real voice, just a heaviness

I immediately look for someone or something to blame

Core Shame

Where does shame show up most in your life right now?

In my relationship — I feel like I'm always falling short

In my work — I don't feel like I'm enough or good enough

As a father — I'm repeating patterns I swore I wouldn't

In how I talk to myself — the inner critic runs constantly

All of the above

Mother Wound

When your partner or a woman close to you is upset, what do you do?

Try to fix it immediately — I need the tension to stop

Shut down and go quiet — I don't know what to do

Get defensive or reactive — it feels like an attack

Feel anxious and scan for what I did wrong

Stay present and ask what she needs — most of the time

Mother Wound

Which of these feels most familiar growing up?

Devouring — her needs, moods and emotions took up all the space

Absent — she was emotionally unavailable or not there

Critical — nothing was ever quite enough

Armoured — she was strong but closed, hard to get close to

A mix of more than one of these

She was mostly present and warm — the wound is elsewhere

Father Wound

Where are you still waiting for permission to take up space?

At work — I hold back even when I know I'm right

In my relationship — I shrink so things stay calm

With other men — I look for older men to validate me

In my own life direction — I second-guess everything

Everywhere — I don't fully trust my own authority

Father Wound

How did your father most show up?

Absent — physically or emotionally not there

Volatile — unpredictable, I never knew which version I'd get

Passive — present but checked out, no real initiation

Critical — hard to please, the bar always moved

Mostly present and loving — the wound came from elsewhere

What you want

What is the main reason you signed up for Face Your Dragons?

What you want

What would need to shift in you for these 21 days to feel worth it?

Your answers

I will read this before our first call together.
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I'll read this before we meet.

Day 1 is waiting for you.

— Malcolm 🐉

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